Mommy Meltdown Storytime | A Day In The Life of A Stay At Home Mom

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I woke up at 6:20 a.m this morning, showered and prepared myself for a long, busy, and productive day. Before waking the boys I checked and responded to a few emails. After getting the boys dressed and fed, we headed out the door to take Jerrian to school. 

( Now here is where I knew my day was going from sugar to shit!! Yes I said shit!)

As Princeton stepped out onto the front porch he face planted on the concrete!! I quickly scooped him up and inspected him for blood while walking Jerrian to the car and ushering him into the back seat. After convincing Princeton that he was fine and strapping him in his car seat we preceded to the drop off line. Drop off wen smoothly so I figured, you know maybe we can turn this day around.

(Boy was I ever so wrong)

P (Princeton) and I headed to Kroger after a successful drop off to grab 3 items, milk, bread, and cheese. I was planning on walking right past the shopping carts and just grabbing and hand basket but Princeton walked into the store and took one look to the left and bolted for the cart with the blue car attached. I wasn't up for a fight so I grabbed the cart and began to push. (Keep in mind those things are impossible to navigate through the grocery store).

We got what we needed plus a few more things and made our way to self check out. As i'm grabbing my receipt and loading the cart I overhear the lady next to us say to P, " Look at those cute little toes!!" Now the only way she could have seen his toes is if his shoes were off. So I glance down into the blue car to inspect his feet and yes indeed his shoes were off and nowhere in site! After circling the Kroger for 15 mins I go over to the guest care desk and ask if anyone turned in a pair of cute closed toe brown sandals. To my surprise someone found them and turned them in! I then have a very calm conversation with Princeton about keeping his shoes on and we get in our car and go home to begin our daily routine.

(Princeton took nothing from our conversation, he removed his shoes again in the back seat.)

Let's fast forward this story to lunch time. After a very productive morning completing my commissions, packing them for a trip to the post office, and playing and reading to Princeton. I prepared a simple lunch for my little menace and seated him at the table. But with P being the terrible 2 year old he is he did not stay seated at the table to eat his sandwich. He grabbed one triangle and took the biggest bite his little mouth could take and took off like a race car down the entry way hall. Before I could even scold him for disobeying me he had fell and hurt his head and hand and was screaming as loud as he could. (With a big ass bite of turkey sandwich in his mouth). So you guys know what happens next right. If you guessed that he choked you are correct! He choked on the sandwich!

Now i'm in mommy mode so I rush over to him and begin to pat him on the back. He coughed once and vomit went everywhere!! On me , on him, on the wall, on my fabulous rug! Ugh!! And i'm pregnant and still very naseous so of course I vomit too!  At this point i'm devastated, he's scared and we are both standing there in disgust!

( My goal was to get to the post office by 2:00 p.m just in case there was a line I didn't want to be late getting Jerrian from school at 3:15 p.m).

I snap out of my angry and confused haze and begin to clean the mess. I change his clothes and change my clothes. Clean the wall, the carpet, and the floor. I throw all of the disgusting towels and clothes into the washing machine and head downstairs to load the car. It is now 1:45 p.m and I am confident we can make it to the post office and get to Jerrian on time!

(Again, I was wrong)!

It's potty time so I take Princeton to the bathroom and he sits on the toilet for 10 mins and does nothing. We head to the car and before we can make it out of the door Princeton pee's all over himself.

( REALLY???!!!!)

Now i'm rushing back inside to wash him and change his clothes yet again! By the time we make it back to the car and I get him strapped in and we are prepared to back out of the driveway it's 2:30 p.m.

We get to the post office at 2:49 p.m. ( There was so much traffic!) I turn off the car and proceed to the back door to unbuckle P from his seat and he is sleep! He's sleep!!

( He hasn't taken a nap all week and he wants to choose today of all days to fall asleep!)

Now I have no choice but to go get Jerrian from school first and come back to the post office with him so he can help me carry the very large packaged orders I need to ship!

I'm so frustrated with my day at this point that I break down in tears and call my brother to tell him about it and relieve myself of the pressures to be a good mom!

To skip to the end I made to the post office with a very amazing 6 year old boy ( carrying 5 boxes bigger the he is), a sleeping two year old in one arm, and 3 large packages in the other. I cried in the pickup line and got myself together before my baby got in the car. I had a very awful day, but I wanted to share this because motherhood isn't always cute, fun, and easy! Especially with multiple children. I'm pregnant and I don't get to rest, I still don't eat enough because I forget! And I don't comb my hair or wear makeup and heels everyday. I'm not perfection and I won't portray myself as such, but i'm a good mother. To my boys i'm a teacher, a chef, coach, nurse, friend, but most importantly to them i'm amazing! 

Please don't beat yourself up over the bad days because they happen and it doesn't make us any less of mother's if we need to cry in the car or the pantry for a few mins. It's ok!

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Happy Mother's Day Ladies!! And thank you so much for stopping by to read my story time!!

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Love Destiney

2017 New Years Resolutions (For Artists and Entrepreneurs)

So it's 2017 and you have either made the plunge into a career as a full-time artist, creator, or entrepreneur. Or, you are still contemplating if you want to leave your stable job to pursue a dream that includes financial uncertainty. Either way you are setting your goals and yearly resolutions and planning how you are going to go about executing them. Well i'm here to help you out a little. Here's a list of 2017 New Year's Resolutions for Creative Entrepreneurs! I hope this helps!

1. NETWORK

Every career should have a consistent networking schedule. Whether you start locally or online it is important to talk to the people who inspire you, the people who are making strides to fulfill their dreams and connect with them. Build real lasting relationships. You never know who you could meet at the network after work mixer or the local art galleries! Surrounding yourself with like minded and driven individuals can have a lasting affect! Plus you get to make new friends!

2.BE CONSISTENT

Ok, so I know this is very general and you see this every where. And i'm not just talking about consistently posting on your social media or consistently creating product. Those things are very important, but I am speaking towards everything! Be consistent with your work schedule. If you are going to create your blog content on Sundays and post on Monday and Wednesday honor the commitment you set. If you are going to focus on marketing and promotion on Tuesdays and Thursdays for 4 hours, just do it. Don't let yourself lose focus!

3. INVEST IN YOURSELF (and your business)

Create a Business Plan complete with a budget and expenses. (Download my free Business Plan for Creative Entrepreneurs Here). No matter how big or small. Be sure to include enough for at least one workshop to help you learn a new skill towards creating your products or building your business. Dedicate a certain amount of time per week to work on a skill you would like to be better at. Don't go cheap on those supplies you need, save the money, raise the money, earn the money to get quality professional materials. Always take the time you need to clear your mind and relieve stress so you don't over think everything!

4. SELL YOUR WORK

Create an event and you be the host! Whether its a fashion show, art show, pop up, or networking event you should get out of your shell and introduce yourself to your city. Meet people like you or people who admire your work. This is the age of social media and you never know who is watching you and wishing they knew you. Attend events as a vendor, submit your work for group shows or set up a booth at the local art fair. This goes along with networking but its also a great way to let people know who you are and what your doing so you can create a client base.

5. DON'T GIVE UP

No matter what, never give up! Being in business for yourself gets hard, your savings will run out, sometimes your sales will be amazing and sometimes you will feel like no one knows you exist. You have to keep working. Keep believing in yourself and keep building your network, creating your work, and taking advantage of every opportunity that fits your craft and business. You can do it!!!

Follow me on my social media accounts to keep up with my work and watercolor painting tutorials.

Comment below and tell me what some of your resolutions are!

As always thank you for reading!

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Raw Nashville Art&Fashion Show-Trend

I had the pleasure of showing my work with Raw Nashville at The City Winery in Nashville on June 28th! Summer "16"!

Today I want to tell you guys my experience with Raw, the pros and cons, what I wish I had known, and what we all would like to know... Did you sell anything?

So lets get to it shall we?...

My Experience with Raw Nashville

Personally for me Raw was an amazing experience! We had a meet and greet one month prior to the show to go over details such as arrival times, performance times, what we were expected to bring, what was being provided, parking, ticket sales, and the venues rules.

The meet and greet was fun! I met some great artists we exchanged tips and tricks for creating and selling art! Some of us will actually be collaborating later this year! 

The Raw staff was absolutely amazing with answering any questions and helping us set up our booths to help captivate the audience. I felt that everything was coordinated pretty well there were a few bumps but that is to be expected I won't deduct any points for it!

I definitely recommend Raw for emerging and seasoned artists! Its great for networking and meeting artists of different crafts as well as locating your clients, discovering who is interested in your work and why! I got to speak with a lot of people about my work regarding what they liked and how I could improve and that is always amazing!!! So overall my experience was amazing and I will definitely be showing with them again!

Pros and Cons

Pros would have to be the massive amount of exposure! So many people attended the event and they were actually interested in the art and willing to purchase and give feedback which was amazing!

Another Pro is connecting with other creative people who share the same interests as you do! That is always a plus and helps you build a creative community around you filled with people who support you and will critique your work honestly! I mean what more could an artsy girl ask for?

Cons??? There were a few and I mean very few!! So few I only have one which would be hanging space. I felt a little deceived regarding the hanging space and the walls we were given to hang the work on. We had a few incidents with the walls falling over prior to the show because we were sharing the walls. By sharing I mean we had wire wall racks and you had one side and another artist had the other. If the other artist happened to have work that was heavier than yours you ran the risk of having your display wall tumble down. Some artists got lucky and they were given spaces along the actual wall so they could create a small pop up like space! Which I loved by the way!!

 

What I Wish I Had Done-Notes for Future Shows

So these may be a given for you guys because some of you are pros but for me I'm still working on my career and I have only been full time since February and this was my first show so give me a break!!

Any who!! So my hubby and I took a little tour around the venue to see the other artists work and to network and socialize and of all that good stuff!! That's how I noticed these things and why I will never do another show without them!

Here's my list:

1. Contact List - Requesting names and emails for the clients visiting there booth! Why are contact lists great to have? You have direct information to reach clients who admire your work to market directly to those customers!

2. Social Media and Business Card Displayed- IN YOUR FACE!!!- Displaying social media information up close and personal for immediate access to your online profile in the event you are speaking to another client and the on lookers don't want to interrupt you! Also you get instant followers they follow you right then and there!!!

3. Prints and Smaller, Less Expensive Versions of Large Popular Pieces - Most artists had postcards, prints, and small canvas prints of there work on the table for purchase. I asked around and most of the items offered were super inexpensive starting as low as $10.00 and the prints were bagged with business cards and branded bags so the customer can find you easily should they want more work! And cheaper work that is also easy to purchase sales quicker than the large pieces no one wants to haul around all night!

4. Live Painting- Painting live is a great conversation starter! People are fascinated by the gift of creativity and they love to see you in the act! Also it helps pass time by! One of the artists actually set up her easel and paints to allow guests at her booth to paint on the painting! At the end of the night she had one beautiful abstract piece which she donated to Raw! Isn't that amazing?

5. Freebies- Small 4x5 art prints with candy or some cool trinket attached with a business card for the clients to take! Everyone visiting may not have come prepared to spend but having the option of free goody bags keeps me coming back and you have a refresher for them to keep your work fresh on their brain after the event is over! If you are giving a super cool crochet bracelet for free, every time you look at it you will remember where you got the bracelet and you will talk about it to friends and family when they ask! Am I right or am I right?

And Finally

Girl Did you Sell Anything?...

YES!!! I did!! I sold lots of prints from my shop linked above and I received 12 portrait orders all who actually purchased them! AND I was commissioned to do two very huge and expensive abstract pieces for a local interior designer. I was also invited to show my work at 3 events planned for the fall and I could not be more excited!! 

Raw Nashville opened doors for me and my small business! I am so grateful for the experience and I can't wait to show with them again in the future!

For all of my fellow artistic readers interested in showing I say do it! Go to www.rawartists.org and submit your work and check out shows in your surrounding areas! You may see me at one of them!!

I know this was a super long post but I love you guys and I wanted to share with you and give you tips!

Have an amazing Monday!!! And thanks for reading!!!

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Love,

Destiney

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